As we go about our day, we tend to tell ourselves a story about what's going on. We usually place ourselves into the position of the main character. I'm sure that you can relate.
We talk to ourselves about how so and so has been inconsiderate or disrespectful. However, we give ourselves a pass to procrastinate and be insensitive because we’re not really in the mood or because we’re tired. It happens to every single one of us. I think that it's pretty normal. Unfortunately, though, if we aren’t careful, some difficulties can arise from this self-centered view of the world.
You can misinterpret everything around you–from internet trolls to bad traffic to terrorist attacks–by only thinking about how it affects you singly. "Poor me", you begin to think. On the other hand, though, you could remove yourself from the story and see that there are other events happening in this world…you may even be a little more curious about them. Do some research and try to understand them better from the other perspective. You’ll find that a lot of these problems aren't even concerning you!
As I mentioned earlier, it's normal to interpret everything this way automatically but this can cause unnecessary stress. It can also inhibit your understanding and empathy.
Here are a few tips that will help:
• Become aware of your story telling
• Notice when you are putting yourself smack dab in the center.
• See if you can remove yourself from the center and move to birdsview
What would the story look like without you in the heart of it? You may notice that life isn't as hard as it seems. This realization will give you the focus and energy needed to empathize with other people.
Remember, you aren't actually removed from the story. You are still there, but just not the center of the problem. Instead, you are focusing on your connection with everyone and everything else.
"I can't change the direction of the wind,
but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."